Donor profiles, spreadsheets and video calls: un/known donor conception in the digital age

This article explores how connections brought about through practices of donor conception are changing in the context of mediatisation and, in particular, how digital technologies shape possibilities for donors and recipient families to know one another. We focus on the growing practice of 'informal' donor conception (IDC) in the UK - donor conceptions which are arranged outside of medical institutions and often facilitated via online platforms. Drawing on interviews with 30 (intended) parents via IDC and 19 informal sperm donors, we show how donors and recipients carefully manage, or attempt to manage, the ways in which they are known and knowable to one another, and to a potential donor-conceived person. We identify four ways of knowing, and being known, within participants' accounts: 1) selective sharing of identifying information; 2) (dis)embedding donation connections within wider communities; 3) communicative forms of knowing; and 4) via the creation and management of digital artefacts. Donors and recipients sought to use and limit these different modes of knowing in varied combinations, shaped by their knowledge of (clinical) assisted reproduction practices, changing digital cultures and the legal marginalisation of IDC practices.