In This Together: Employment and Household Labor Divisions Among Highly Religious Wives and Husbands

The division of labor in mixed-gender couples has been a popular research topic for several decades, including discussions about household labor, childcare, and paid employment. However, few studies have examined these processes as they apply to highly religious couples, whose perspectives on labor division show some evidence of diverging from those who are less devout. To better understand how successful mixed-gender, highly religious couples from a broad range of faith traditions conceptualize the division of paid and unpaid labor, we employed a strengths-based, qualitative approach, examining data from 103 interviews with highly religious, highly satisfied couples (N = 206 participants). Viewed within an interdependence theory framework, findings across numerous religions and ethnicities revealed evidence of communal relationships, with themes emphasizing partnership, shared responsibility, and varied labor arrangements that required commitment, trust, and sacrifice. While spouses evidenced high levels of agreement with each other, a strong emphasis on a husband’s responsibility to provide financially contrasted with a more nuanced view of women’s roles, with some participants stressing women’s roles at home and some highlighting their right to choose employment and a more flexible household labor division. Difficulties mentioned revolved around traditional labor arrangements and work–life balance for husbands.