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This chapter examines how language can both exacerbate and alleviate burnout, drawing on Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Compassion-Focused Therapy (CFT), Relational Frame Theory (RFT), and dialectical principles. Language shapes attention, activates threat responses, and guides behavior. The text highlights burnout-amplifying language and thought habits such as obligation framing (“have to”), shame imperatives (“should/shouldn’t”), invalidating “but,” reflexive apologizing, and absolutes (“always/never”). Suggested interventions include cognitive defusion (labeling thoughts as words or stories), values-based reframing (shifting from “have to” toward chosen action), and balanced phrasing (replacing “but” with “and” to hold multiple truths). Social and systemic dimensions are considered through language for advocacy, boundary-setting, and navigating role expectations. Vignettes, narratives, and reflective exercises illustrate how readers can identify unworkable patterns, practice intentional phrasing, and link words to values-consistent behavior. Ultimately, the chapter positions language as both a potential driver of burnout and a tool for resilience, agency, and meaningful change.