Resonant Compatibility A Structural Model of Partner Alignment Through Resonance, Polarity, and Recursive Self-Regulation

Prevailing models of interpersonal compatibility emphasize similarity in traits, attachment security, communication skill, or negotiated preference alignment. Although these variables correlate with relationship satisfaction and stability, they insufficiently explain why some partnerships reliably amplify long-term psychological coherence while others progressively erode self-regulation despite effort and apparent alignment (Gottman & Levenson, 1992; Luo & Klohnen, 2005). This paper proposes a structural model of resonant compatibility grounded in a multidimensional architectural account of psychological organization. Compatibility is defined not as similarity, complementarity, or compromise, but as an emergent condition produced by (a) shared resonance constraints and (b) polarity-differentiated regulation between self-led psychological systems. Drawing on multidimensional psychological architecture, recursive coherence across time, and a non-typological resonance-axis framework, the model specifies conditions under which relational coupling amplifies rather than consumes internal coherence. The framework applies to romantic, creative, and co-founding partnerships and is non-normative with respect to gender, personality type, or relational form. Compatibility is defined descriptively as structural permission for sustained differentiation, adaptive regulation, and temporal continuity, rather than as a guarantee of relational success or permanence. Permissions NoticeThis work is licensed under Creative Commons Attribution–NonCommercial–NoDerivatives 4.0 International (CC BY-NC-ND 4.0). Any use involving adaptation, modification, translation, educational deployment, therapeutic application, derivative modeling, or inclusion in external platforms beyond unchanged archival hosting requires explicit written permission from the author.