on friendship … risk, love, mourning: fragments

The risk of mourning, as Jacques Derrida continues to teach us, is that one of the two of you will see the other die. That there will come a day when “one of the two of us will see himself no longer seeing the other ...”. Where, the limit of friendship — when the friend is no longer with you — is also its very condition. That, without the risk, not of death — which is not so much a risk as an inevitability — but the risk of loss, of being the one without the other whom one calls, has called, one‘s friend, there is no possibility of friendship.